How we can maintain our marriage through all our life? Why some of marriages remain stable for years and other – breaking after a few months? Main point of each marriage – communication between spouse and their ability to handle misunderstandings. Results of research show that main streak of happy families – understanding and mutual respect between spouses. This kind of couples can handle any problems in marriage, because they know expectations of each other and can choose the best variant or way by discussion.
For instance, when you fall in love – you spend most of your free time on your sweetheart, but when you in marriage you spend your leisure-time with friends, on work or on something else – you spare much less time to your spouse. And at worst case you will lose understanding with spouse one time and, as a result, you marriage can be broken. And in this article we will talk about prevention of situations like this.
Imagine, that you win a lottery and you can fly to any place in the world for two weeks with “all in”, but you have only one day for preparation. You need to resolve a number of problems: move all you meetings, business, find a baby sitter for your children’s, find someone to mow lawn near your house and someone to water your flowers. What should you do in this case? Can you resolve all this problems in one day? Or you will disclaim flight? If you turn your mind according to this example you will understand priorities in your life. Rely on this you can understand that you can change your life style and pay more attention to your marriage and relationships in family.
- Every time when you decide to postpone some of family business, saying something like “I’ll do it next time, now I’m too tired” remember, that than you can postpone it again or forget and all you causes can be only excuses for yourself in the first place.
As an example for the last point, one of the most famous motivation speakers in the world – Zig Zigler, offers to perform the following experiment: Imagine, that one day somebody come to you and say that you win a tour to any corner of the world with “all in”. But he set in one limitation – your plane will take off in 12 hours in any case. Now, think – can you resolve all pre-vacation business in time? Meetings, baby sitter, house, etc. Most of people will answer that they can move their meeting and work business, can find a baby sitter and someone to watch the house.
The main task of any marriage counselor is – to establish communication between spouses, because the great number of divorces has in their roots accumulated dissatisfaction which was started from regular controversy. Marriage counselor can’t resolve your problems instead of you, nobody can do it. If you have mutual understanding with your spouse – you will solve any problem together and will be happy.
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